Of course, the year comes to an end and I’m hell bent on writing something before it runs out! 2016 has been quite eventful year, hasn’t it? Great in many ways, tiring in others, sad in some. We’ve seen the voting in of The Unlikely, lies on the national level, wars that make no sense fought on behalf of the egos of man. In truth, 2016 for me has been a year of sober reflection. Some are no longer with us and some thankfully are still here.
I’ve experienced heart ache, joy in extremes, sadness, happiness and many more emotions. I’ve accomplished dreams and projects. Overcome obstacles and been buried by mountains and at the end of it I am very tired. It has thankfully, come with lessons. Lessons I’ve been forced to learn often in frustration (haha). Here we Go!
I’ve actually been good this year with money. Better than a lot of other years. I’ve also been impatient for the next paycheck. Adulting means more responsibility. Some you never expected to have, some you didn’t think were difficult to manage and some you welcomed. Responsibility tends to come with a price tag though. In these moments when it overwhelms me and I’m waiting on that paycheck that’s when I wish I had a second stream of income. Thankfully I’m working on it!
Don’t rely solely on get-rich-quick schemes. You’d be shooting yourself in the foot with a cannon if you do. The level of risk is usually high. Proper investments in businesses, people, foreign exchange, bonds etc. It goes a long way and there’s probably a lot less heartache involved.
Save! Always have a ‘Rainy Day’ fund because it’s always going to rain eventually! I can’t stress this enough to all the adulting people out there; Save. Some. Money.
On Passions & Goals
Honestly, chase them! No matter what they might be, or who they might be. If you’re not hurting people in the process, then chase them until you get it! In the midnight hours and in between coffee breaks and lunch breaks; chase your passion with a vengeance!
You may not always be where you need to be in life but work on your craft. Improve yourself constantly. Finish something and start another. Keep going at it until you get to a point where you and you alone are good at what you do; the way you do it.
Good Work Ethic Is Key
Irrespective of where you work, hate it or love it, always do good work. Always. If you find that you can’t it’s a good idea to start planning for another job; something that works towards where you want to be. A wise person once told me that you can’t hide good work. Someone somewhere will notice it. Which is nice but also learn how to protect your work too! I’ve found one of my drawings on some onye oshi’s page freely using my work and not paying.
So, people will notice your good work. Learn to protect it as well.
I find that the right support will keep you going when you’re out there trying to achieve your goals. It’s a good idea to find supportive people in your life. It’s also a good idea not to expect it from them. It’s a blessing if someone – anyone- supports your dreams and passions and goals. I’ve learned from personal experience that it won’t always come from the people closest to you. Especially if they don’t understand you or the things you want to do.
People will always try to control you. In one way shape or form people will try and control you. It could be at work or at home and often you’ll hear the words “It’s for the best”. Sometimes it really isn’t at all. Don’t let people take over your life in the name of doing what’s best for you or thinking they’re doing you a favour by giving you more work (for whatever reason). I’m not saying don’t do your job chere reader or disobey for the hell of it or become a criminal. No. Those are rules, laws and established hierarchies.
However, do take control of your life and time. Don’t waste it achieving someone else’s dream. Refuse some extra work here and there. Don’t be a ‘yes’ person all the time. Take time and be selfish with your own dreams.
Mental and Physical. Take care of yourself people. Exercise your mind and body. Read a book. Go for a jog. Solve a puzzle do some situps. Laugh with friends and family. Eat properly. Deal with stress thoroughly and don’t let it affect your body.
Your entire body is a temple. Take very good care of it. If you’re struggling on the inside talk to someone. An expert or a friend. Taking care of your mental and physical health is so important in the long run. So don’t go round making silly excuses any more. Treat yo self.
In many ways, I think this is the most important lesson I’ve learned this year. This lesson I didn’t learn in frustration. I simply opened myself up to it.
In today’s world, with all the negativity we’ve seen plastered on our screens from the news and other media outlets, it might not always be easy to show, give or receive love. It is however a very natural thing to all of us.
I’m reminded of
Matthew 5:16 ‘Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.’
Let it shine. Let your love shine. Show it. No one’s going to know if you keep quiet about it or hide it from the world. Don’t expect that simply because you love someone they would know. Tell them. Show them. Gift them. Touch them. Call them. Drop the phone. Or pick it up; as the case may be.
Reach Out & Touch (Somebody’s Hand)
– Diana Ross
If you’re hiding your love from the world how can anyone receive it? Some people really need it. Some people have cried from a simple word of encouragement from people. I met a lovely old lady who made my month and a half by simply telling me I’m a beautiful person. It made me smile. Maybe someone saw that smile and smiled too? Showing love doesn’t even need reciprocity. Just show it.
Guys, it’s going to be tomorrow soon. A new year, according to most of our calendars, will start. Don’t go planning to transform yourself entirely but ask yourself what you can do differently so around this time next year you’ll reflect on all the great things you’ve achieved.
God bless each and every single one of you lovely people. Happy New Year.